Setting boundaries for elegant women

Strict babe 101

Overwhelm. Frustration. Exhaustion. These are common side effects of living a life with no boundaries. Countless women struggle with these every single day.

Are you one of them?

If you feel as though you are constantly saying yes to everyone and feeling taken advantage of, disrespected and spread too thin as a result, then it’s time to set some boundaries.

Elegant women and boundaries

I know I say this all the time, but leveling up my life came with many positive side effects. One of them being the ability to create, set, and uphold boundaries within my life.

The truth is that classy women have beautiful lives because of their high standards and their boundaries.

They are strict with themselves and as a result, they are able to cultivate a healthy lifestyle that helps them become the best version of themselves.

Today I’m sharing everything you need to know about setting boundaries as a classy woman.

What are boundaries?

Boundaries are the rules we set for ourselves that help our lives run more smoothly. Rules with family, friends, work, and life in general.

Why is it hard to set boundaries?

Sometimes it can be difficult to set boundaries because it often means that we have to have difficult conversations with people when we are setting our boundaries, and we are afraid of confrontation or hurting other people.

Sometimes people will have a negative response to your boundaries, which may cause some tension in your relationship with them. That is what people are stressed about.

Identifying your boundaries

You’ve decided that you need to start setting boundaries in your life. That’s wonderful. Now what? It’s time to start identifying your boundaries. You might not be able to think of them all off the top of your head. 

Here are some common areas where classy ladies set boundaries

Friendship boundaries

Elegant women don’t let their friends treat them poorly. They also do not engage with low vibrational individuals or attend low vibrational activities.

Sometimes you will be placed in positions where you are expected to go along with what everyone else is doing. 

If your friends want you to do something or associate with someone who does not align with an elegant lifestyle, you must uphold your boundaries and excuse yourself from the situation.

You friends should be classy, kind, supportive, and healthy. If they aren’t then you need to take a step back.

Family boundaries

Family can be toxic. We all know it. You wouldn’t believe some of the stories I have heard of people being treated poorly by the people who are closest to them. 

When you notice this happening, it’s time to start setting some boundaries. 

Elegant women don’t allow their family to treat them poorly. Sometimes that can mean distancing yourself from the family member(s) entirely. It can be difficult, but it is necessary.

Dating boundaries

I don’t speak much about dating, but many women who are looking to attract a good man live by a set of rules. These rules naturally weed out the low quality men and make it easier for them to date.

Not everyone is going to be right for you in a relationship. If you set boundaries for your dating life, it makes the experience much better.

Digital boundaries

This is new, but as many of us spend a lot of time on the internet, it is important to have digital boundaries as well. 

There should be things that you will and will not tolerate when interacting with people online.

Work boundaries

Many women spend a majority of their lives at work. It is important to make sure that you have set proper work boundaries on the way you must be treated within the workplace. 

This includes your work schedule, your boss/management and how your co-workers are treating you.

It is important to set boundaries if you want to have a healthy relationship with your job and your co-workers.

Creating boundaries (Rules) 

You will need to give yourself some time to create rules. It may take a while for things to come to you and that is okay. There might be some that are fresh in your mind after interacting with someone.

Make a list of the boundaries that you want to set. This can be a mix of all of the different type of boundaries

  • Arrive on time or at a reasonable time to plans that are made (friendship)
  • Not pressuring you to stick with unhealthy habits (friendship)
  • Not talking bad about you to other people (friendship)
  • Not making comments about the choices you are making in your life (family)
  • Not spending time with family members who are disrespectful to you (family)
  • Not taking phone calls after a certain time at night (work)

Communicating your boundaries

This is perhaps one of the most difficult things to do once you have established your boundaries. Sometimes, all it takes is a simple message.

For example, your boss likes to call you after hours and asks for help. You could simply send a message or email to them saying that you will not accept any work calls after a certain time of day. Then let them know when the next time will be that you are available for work related conversation.

You can also speak with the person one on one (which can be intimidating, I know).

For example, you may want to speak with a friend who has been sharing details about your personal life that you do not want shared.

 You can speak with her and say I would greatly appreciate it if you didn’t share personal things about my life with other people

What happens when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries

This is why I prefer communicating boundaries in a written form, so you have proof that you have made someone aware of your boundaries.

When someone chooses to ignore your boundaries, you must act accordingly so they don’t continue to disrespect you. If you boss continues to call you outside of the hours that you set, block their number and tell them why.

If your friend won’t stop sharing your personal details, stop telling her things or simply stop being friends with her.

People won’t respect you or take you seriously if you don’t stick to your boundaries. If they find that you don’t enforce the rules that you set, they will continue to push you to your limits.

Final thoughts

It is important as an elegant woman to set boundaries. This will teach others how to treat you. It will also protect you from lower quality people and experiences, thus creating a more peaceful and leveled up life.

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