10 Ways to charm everyone in the room
Before I started leveling up my life I didn’t much care about what kind of impression I left on people I met at events. My thoughts would often be that I would most likely not see those people again so what is the point of trying to be impressionable.
I was never rude to anyone, I just didn’t want to put effort into socializing with new people and I didn’t care what they thought about me.
Fast forward to today, I want to sparkle in every room that I walk into. I want to be kind, magnetic, but still a little bit mysterious. I want people to feel comfortable around me and have a wonderful experience meeting me for the first time.
I think it is an amazing sign of how much I’ve grown. While you spend too much time worrying about what people think about you, you can spend some time being an amazing woman.
In today’s post, I’m sharing 10 ways to impress everyone in the room. Try these out at your next party or event where you will be meeting new people.
1.Dress to impress
You probably already assumed that in order to make a good impression you should be well dressed, but I didn’t want to leave it out of this list. My rule for meeting people is that it is always better to be overdressed than underdressed.
Well dressed women instantly command attention and look more polished and put together. The first step in impressing others is to look good and smell good.
2.Smile and be positive
You would be surprised how many times I’ve met a new person and when I meet them they are complaining about something. Or they are yelling at their children and being generally unpleasant.
You never want to attend an event and complain about things that you have going on. Even if you are stuck in traffic or your outfit got stained right before you had to leave for the event. Always come with a smile on your face and a positive attitude.
3.Don’t just stick with the people in your circle.
Always break away from your friend group and introduce yourself to at least 3 new people at the event. I don’t expect you to float around the entire party and introduce yourself to everyone, but you should be able to communicate with new people.
Once others see that you are socializing with different people at the event they will see you as friendly and kind.
4.Practice basic etiquette
Everyone needs an etiquette lesson. I firmly believe that. I think it is important to know the proper ways to act in social situations that will help you come across as classy and charming.
I see a lot of people making elegant mistakes almost everywhere I go and sometimes if you make these mistakes it can change the way you come across to people.
The goal is to be charming and magnetic, so one of the best ways to do that is by acting classy and graceful.
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5.Create a short introduction for yourself.
One of the best ways to reduce anxiety when it comes to meeting new people is to rehearse a short introduction of yourself. Something quick and easy that will help you introduce yourself in a nice way that will give someone some quick background as to how you know the host or if you are at a company event, what you do at the company.
Something like “Hello, my name is Victoria, I’m one of Sarah’s childhood friends. It’s a pleasure to meet you.”
Or. “Hello, my name is Victoria, I work in the office and I’ve been with the company for 5 years, delighted to meet you.”
If you are traveling from out of town, you could specify where you are from and mention that you’ve had a wonderful visit thus far.
6.Give genuine compliments.
Complimenting people is one of the best ways to charm them. It’s a great way to break the ice for an introduction so that you can get the conversation started.
But many people can tell when a compliment is not genuine, so I wouldn’t compliment someone on anything unless I really mean it.
7.Don’t ask people what they do for work.
This is a trick that I’ve learned over the years that is better than asking someone what they do for work. It came from me having to unlearn that our careers are not our identity. Instead of asking someone where they work, I like to ask them what they like to do for fun.
Most of the time people are much more enthusiastic about talking about things that they are really interested in than what they do for work.
8.Don’t spend too much time talking about yourself.
One of the worst things you can do when it comes to making a good first impression is spending too much time talking about yourself.
Remember, people only care about themselves, so try and spend more time asking questions about the other person rather than giving them a monologue about your life.
9.Don’t spend too much time on your phone.
In fact, do your best to keep your phone in your purse. Being on your phone too much during an event makes you look uninterested and bored. It is also not friendly or engaging with the other guests.
If you have to take a phone call, excuse yourself and don’t have a phone call in front of other people.
10.Don’t curse or share too much information.
This could probably go under basic etiquette rules, but I will always tell everyone to refrain from using foul language when you first meet people. Even if the other person is, you always want to speak in an elegant way.
It’s also important to mention that you should be careful not to share too much information with other people or information that can be gross.
One day I went to a bridal shower and I was sitting at the table eating with my friends and also a woman that I’d never met. While we were eating she started sharing gruesome, graphic, details of her weight loss procedure.
By the time she was done speaking I didn’t even want to eat my food because I had lost my appetite. It was horrific and an easily avoidable etiquette mistake.
Remember to be yourself.
One of the best ways to make a good first impression is to not try and be someone you are not. Always try to stay true to yourself, bring positive energy, and be aware of your body language. Try using these tips at your next event!
Bonus: How to properly exchange pleasantries
- Smile. When you are meeting someone for the first time or reconnecting with someone you already know, be sure to smile and be positive. I know that we all have good days and bad days, but do your best to appear joyful to be in their presence.
- Say hi and use their name if you know it. People love to hear the sound of their own name. It also shows that you are paying attention to them when you remember their name.
- Ask how they are doing. I’m sure they will say that they are doing well and then return that question to you.
- You can also ask them about a recent life event if you are aware. “How was your birthday? How is your new job going?” etc.
- If they ask you, respond that you are doing well and mention one exciting thing that has happened to you lately. This keeps the conversation going in the right direction.
- Continue on with the conversation if necessary.
Exchanging pleasantries is simply the art of greeting people and having very short small talk. Remember to practice the first impression tips mentioned in the post when exchanging pleasantries.
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