Quick Question. And be honest. Do you love yourself? I spent the entire month of February sharing date night tips and ideas for romantic living, but the one thing that I didn’t focus on is self love. So today, I’m sharing my top 5 ways to fall in love with yourself.
Throughout my journey of elegance I learned a lot of things that I wasn’t expecting to learn about life and about myself.
Naturally over time as I learned more about elegant living and practicing all of the things I teach in my elegance course, I fell head over heels in love with myself.
I realized though, that self love isn’t as common as I would like it to be. My goal with this post is to teach you how to really cultivate a deep love and appreciation for yourself.
Why is self love so important?
Self love is the foundation that helps you create the best version of yourself. On your elegance journey you will have to make some tough decisions. All of which revolve around putting yourself first and doing things that are best for you.
If you don’t love yourself, you won’t be able to make some of these difficult decisions because you won’t be looking out for your best interest.
You will need to set boundaries, make changes, lose friends, and let go of parts of yourself. When you truly love yourself, it will be much easier to complete the tasks necessary to level up.
Here are 5 ways to fall in love with yourself.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Can we all agree that this is the most difficult time in history to stop comparing ourselves to others?
With the abundance of social media platforms accessible to us, we have the world at our fingertips. This also means we get little glimpses of other people’s lives all the time.
This can cause us to compare different aspects of our lives with others. Most commonly women are comparing our bodies, and how much money we have.
One thing to understand is that we are all on different life journeys and focusing on what other people are doing only takes energy away from us so that we have less energy to focus on our own lives.
Self love affirmations
I love affirmations. I have found that listening to positive words is like giving water to a drooping flower. When I listen to affirmations during the day I am able to instantly shift to a better mood.
I also feel a lot more motivated and my happiness level increases. The best thing about self love affirmations is that they are everywhere and you don’t have to put in a lot of work to use them every day.
How to use self love affirmations.
Find a video on Youtube and listen to it at least 3 times per week. One of my favorite videos is this one by Lavendaire
Another way to use affirmations that are more specific to you is to find them online.
- Search for self love affirmations on the internet. Weed through them and choose at least 30 of your favorite ones.
- Write down the ones that you like the most.
- Use the voice memo app on your phone and record yourself reading the 30 favorite affirmations.
- Save the voice memo and listen to it at least 3 times per week.
Write down at least 10-20 of your favorite affirmations down at least 3 times per week.
Heal from past trauma
One of the reasons why it might be hard to fall in love with yourself is because you haven’t healed from your past.
We all have trauma that we need to work through. Some of us suffer during childhood and early adult years, while others have had difficult times in their adult years, with relationships or other hardships.
If you are still carrying your trauma then it will be more difficult to truly love yourself because of the negative energy that is stored within your body.
You can heal your trauma by going to therapy. It is expensive, but worth it.
Sometimes it can be hard to spend time alone. The older we get, the more tied up we tend to get with relationships and children. This means that you will become increasingly disconnected from your true self because you are taking on other responsibilities.
Be sure to schedule some time to yourself at least once per month. I recommend engaging in activities that you might do with your friends or your partner, its okay to do things alone sometimes.
This can be a time to reconnect with your passions and who you really are.
Admire yourself in the mirror
I can’t remember where I heard this tip, but I once heard a woman say that she was very ashamed of her body. She went to therapy and her therapist told her to stand in front of the mirror (naked) and admire her body.
She said that the first day was hard.
But over time, she began to start loving parts of her that she never loved before.
You only get one body in your lifetime, it’s time to start admiring it! You are beautiful.
The bottom line
Falling in love with yourself takes effort. It requires you to reconnect with yourself and face the darkest parts of you. But once you reach self love, you will be able to achieve things that you never thought you could.
Self love will get you one step closer to elegant living.